I knew that I was particularly going to need help after the birth of my second child and luckily, the help I got surpassed all my expectations. Not only did my loving community brought me amazing food for weeks after the birth, but I also got to experience one of the most nourishing and comforting services a postpartum mom could ever enjoy: a food doula!
Before I became a mom I used to love cooking. I was even good at it! My old friends still remind me how much they loved my creative dishes. Nowadays it’s hard to imagine how I used to come up with time and imagination to prepare that food. Most days even making a sandwich seems like a challenge. I do cook for my family and sometimes I enjoy it, but it’s a lot of work. I need to research recipes (hello Pinterest!), make lists, write meal plans, do the actual cooking and psychologically prepare to accept the fact that my three year old might still reject a lot of my food (we’re working on it).
I knew that I was particularly going to need help after the birth of my second child and luckily, the help I got surpassed all my expectations. Not only did my loving community brought me amazing food for weeks after the birth, but I also got to experience one of the most nourishing and comforting services a postpartum mom could ever enjoy: a food doula!
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LIFE WITH A NEWBORN IS BUSY
It’s crazy how the most basic things become so difficult once you’re caring for a newborn. Taking a shower, peeing by yourself, eating with both hands and other things we take for granted on the pre-baby days all of a sudden become luxuries during postpartum. Newborns are a lot of work. Many want to be held all the time and those little stomachs can’t hold much food, so they need to eat and poop often. If you’re breastfeeding, you might find most of your day is spent nursing. So, when are you supposed to cook and prepare all the nutritious meals you will be needing to recover from childbirth, cope with sleep deprivation and keep a healthy milk supply?! Even if you have an awesome partner who is committed to taking the best care of you, the demands of parenthood are many and it’s easy to put our nutritional needs on the back burner. Taking care of babies wasn’t meant to be a one or two person job. You will keep hearing it over and over and even if it sounds cliché it’s true: it takes a village! So hey, there is a very easy thing you can do to make this transition easier: let people help! MY NUMBER ONE PREGNANCY PROBLEM! My first pregnancy was a happy, easy one in many ways. I got morning sickness only a few times during my first trimester, I didn’t have tons of pains and aches and I didn’t really suffer much from pregnancy symptoms.
Except for one: constipation. Many pregnant women struggle with constipation but it’s not the most glamorous thing to talk about, so many don’t say anything. We can blame pregnancy hormones on this one, which relax smooth muscles throughout the body, making food pass through the intestines more slowly. Constipation can be a serious problem that can cause painful hemorrhoids (which will only get worse with pushing a baby out), plus it can be problematic during labor if it continues towards the end of pregnancy.
Since I grew up in Mexico, my awareness of the seasons was never very strong.
I will always remember the second year I was living in New York City when I was walking down the street and I saw some little buds flowering in a tree. My heart swell with joy. Here in Olympia, WA, the days are slowly becoming longer and the streets are slowly welcoming the colors of the blooming flowers. Last week we had the chance to attend a wonderful community event organized by The Red Thread Apothecary. We went to Priest Point Park to harvest nettles and it was wonderful and refreshing. Sophie, the young and wise herbalist who led the nature walk, invited us to intentionally sting ourselves in the forehead before we started harvesting. "Nettles change me," was the blessing she did while touching her face lightly with the plant, "so when you get stung, remember to welcome the change." This change of seasons is a very creative time for me, so I have a couple of things to share with you today and I hope you enjoy them. First, I made a video! |
AuthorMarissa Rivera Bolaños is a doula and visual artist with a passion to create change around the way our culture approaches women's health. Archives
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