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The Value of Meditation for Overcoming Pregnancy Anxiety

12/28/2016

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Pregnancy can be quite stressful. After all, your life is changing dramatically and the worries of the world all of the sudden seem much more overwhelming. New financial demands pile up, contradicting advice and information can be confusing, everyone has an opinion about your life, and your identity often seems to be replaced with the simple label: pregnant.
 
To make things even harder, you’re supposed to stay relaxed and happy, since everyone knows that stress is not good for the baby. Some studies have shown moms with high levels of anxiety during pregnancy are more prone to go into birth prematurely and their babies more likely to have complications.
“Some studies have shown moms with high levels of anxiety during pregnancy are more prone to go into birth prematurely and their babies more likely to have complications.”
“Just relax” might sound like great advice, but people who struggle with depression and anxiety know that it’s not as easy as it sounds. If all this sounds familiar, you might want to consider the extreme, insane-sounding thing that I’m about to propose: a 10-day silent meditation course.
WHAT IS VIPASSANA MEDITATION?
I first ran into the concept of Vipassana meditation when I was living and working in Mexico City, almost exactly 5 years ago. I was working at job that in theory sounded like my dream job. But in reality, I was struggling with a lot of anxiety and deep inside I felt a big emptiness that could not be hidden behind the noise and glamour of the film industry.
 
A close friend of mine had done a Vipassana course and she couldn’t stop taking about how amazing and life-changing it had been for her.
​The idea was intriguing, but it also sounded crazy!

The rules are pretty strict: you spend 10 days in a remote meditation center, you give away your phone and any other ways of communication. The food is all vegetarian (I love that part) and not much of it: wake up at 4am, breakfast at 6:30, lunch at 11am and then tea and fruit at 5pm. If you're pregnant they do flex this rule though. I did two courses while pregnant. I was able to eat dinner and I even got a special snack box that I could access any time.
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​You can’t talk to anyone, you can’t read, write, draw, listen to music or even do yoga. You spend most of the day sitting down, trying your hard best to clear up all the clutter of your mind to focus on your breath.
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As for the actual technique, Vipassana literally means “to see things for what they really are,” and it's at its core a deep process of self-observation. The first three days of the course you practice focusing on your breath to sharpen the mind, and in the 4th day you learn to scan your body’s sensations and unlearn the automatic labeling that causes us to react to them. Awareness and equanimity are the goals.
“Vipassana literally means 'to see things as they really are,' and it's at its core a deep process of self-observation. ”​
Mostly, my friends laughed at the idea of me not talking for 10 days, but believe it or not, I somehow managed. Since that first time I have done two more 10-days courses: one as a volunteer and one more as a meditator.
 
I recently came back from a short 3-day version of the course (which is available only to old students) and I was reminded of how amazingly helpful it is to meditate.
 
I have learned many lessons from Vipassana, reflected deeply about my life thanks to it and I couldn’t possibly list all the ways in which it has changed me for better. But I do want to write about how it has specifically helped me during my pregnancies and during my labor and birth.
 

So here, three reasons why I think doing a Vipassana course can help reduce anxiety during pregnancy and prepare you for labor, birth and parenting:
1. IT OFFERS SPACE TO PROCESS AND ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR EMOTIONS
There are many feelings that come with pregnancy. Regardless of your pregnancy being planned or a complete surprise, your first baby or your sixth, chances are you’re going to experience mixed emotions at some point or the other. We’re so used to talking to people about the things that cross our minds, (or at least doing a fair amount of googling to try to find others who share our feelings), that we often lose the precious gift of processing things privately. Being alone with your thoughts for 10 days, without everyone’s opinions and experiences piling up on top of your own, gives you more clarity. You’re supposed to spend a lot of time trying to bring your attention back to your breathing and the sensations of your body. But even the most experienced meditator’s mind will wander sometimes (or a lot of the time!)
​And that’s all right. You can observe. What are the things that keep coming back to your mind over and over? What worries, excites or scares you? You might be surprised by some of the places your mind will go!
“​We’re so used to talking to people about the things that cross our minds that we often lose the precious gift of processing things privately.”
2. IT PROVIDES A GREAT OPPORTUNITY TO BOND WITH YOUR BABY
In a past blog post I wrote about my struggle talking to people about my second pregnancy. I went through a sort of pregnancy denial. I knew I was pregnant, but still I chose to pretend like nothing was going on. Even as I started feeling the baby’s kicks, my life has been so noisy and busy that I didn’t pay much attention to them.
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Meditation Center in Onalaska, WA
I was surprised when the teacher asked anyone who was pregnant to schedule an interview with her during the first day of meditation (yeah, you can do a little bit of talking with teachers and coordinators, but only to discuss the meditation technique or logistic needs). When I went to see her, she instructed me to take this opportunity to bond with my baby and reminded me that he would also experience the benefits of meditation through me.
 

Since Vipassana meditation consists solely on paying attention to the sensations of your body, I was quite aware of every little movement my baby made. For the first time I started noticing his patterns. Part of me felt like I was somehow cheating. You’re not supposed to communicate with anyone, but my baby and me were definitely communicating. I started rubbing my belly with oils again and I would feel him respond to the love and attention I was giving to my womb. It was really nice to get some time to bond with him away from all the noise and distractions of daily life. It was our first adventure just the two of us together.
“It was really nice to get some time to bond with my baby away from all the noise and distractions of daily life. ”
3. IT HELPS DEVELOP A DEEP UNDERSTANDING OF THE MIND-BODY CONNECTION, WHICH BECOMES A GREAT TOOL DURING LABOR
In our Western culture, we’re often taught to think of the mind and the body as two completely different things. When we get sick we usually turn to outside solutions, ignoring what is going on with our emotions or our relationships and how that could be affecting our health.
 
As more and more people search a holistic and balanced approach to their wellbeing, the mind-body connection will be often brought up. But with Vipassana you get very tangible, empirical knowledge about how your thoughts affect your body and how your body affects your thoughts. There is nothing like the things you learn through your own experience!
 
Obviously sitting down for so many hours a day for so many days in a row can be quite uncomfortable to say the least. During my first course I kept experiencing a sharp pain in my back and this last three-day course my coccyx was killing me. Everyone experiences different kinds and degrees of pain, but the instruction is always the same: observe the sensation and don’t react to it. After a while of doing this, it becomes obvious that the pain worsens when you focus on it, especially if you start developing anger or frustration about it. But when you remain equanimous, some times you can break down the sensation into smaller pieces, noticing how each one of them is continuously changing until the pain completely goes away. During the course we are taught not to crave the disappearance of the pain, but to remember that all the sensations you feel, whether pleasant or unpleasant, are impermanent and continue to change constantly.
“After a while, it becomes obvious that pain worsens when you focus on it, especially if you start developing anger or frustration about it. ”
This lesson is absolutely invaluable during labor and birth. It provides real perspective and reassures you that even if you’re experiencing pain like no other (which not everyone will), it won’t last forever. When I was in transition during my first birth I reached a point of tremendous exhaustion in which I just wanted to give up. I told my birth team “I can’t do it anymore.” My husband held me gently and whispered to my ear: “Remember Vipassana. It won’t last forever. Everything is always changing. Everything is impermanent.” My heart was completely open to those words. It was a great reminder that allowed me to completely surrender to the experience and gather the strength I needed to push my son into the world. To this day, that is one of my most precious memories with my husband.
OTHER MEDITATION TECHNIQUES
If meditation sounds good, but Vipassana just sounds too intense or too unreachable (making time to leave your life and responsibilities for 10 days is really hard, specially if you already have kids), there are many other meditation techniques you can learn. Most childbirth preparation classes, prenatal yoga and Dancing For Birth™ classes integrate elements of meditation and relaxation. Even though they won’t allow for the kind of deep, quiet work that Vipassana does, they can really help. Whatever you can do to reduce stress and anxiety during pregnancy and connect with your body is going to benefit you and your baby.

If you’re interested on learning more about Vipassana courses or you want to sign up, check out their official website. It can be hard to get a spot in the course (they fill out fast!) so make sure to plan in advance.
 
What do you think about a 10-day silent meditation course? Would you be willing to try it out?
5 Comments
Charlotte
1/4/2018 08:39:29 am

Hi Marissa I am 6 months pregnant and really keen to take a Vipassana course at this time. Do you have any recommendations for safe positions to sit at length during pregnancy and when to listen to pain signals from your body as sign that you need to move? It seems like a wonderful opportunity to connect with myself and my baby at this time but I don’t want to harm my body from too much strain during all these changes. Any advice appreciated! Thank you ❤️

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Marissa link
1/4/2018 08:08:07 pm

Hi Charlotte,
When I did the course the teacher had a meeting with me the first day and told me to move my body when I needed to and skip the "strong determination" sitting where you try sit through the discomfort for a whole hour. It's hard to sit down a meditate for hours when you're 6 months pregnant, but I would say experiment with lots of cushions (bring your own if necessary) and also with the meditation stools. I used to prop my knees up and drop them to the sides while I sat on the stool. Congratulations of your pregnancy and how wonderful that you get to share the gift of meditation with your baby since now!

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Charlotte
1/5/2018 09:53:10 am

Thank you that’s really helpful x

Marnie
8/11/2019 09:28:42 am

I have just completed a full ten day vipassana course while being 18 weeks pregnant. This has been my seventh course. It has been the most 'relaxing' course if you can call it that, as I had no trouble getting up at four o clock in the morning like I usually had. Also, from by past experience I knew how much it can intensify any kind of pain if you dwell on it and forget to simply focus on the sensations in your body or your breathing. So I followed instructions to the t (except for an additional hour of sleep in the morning, after having meditated first . Unfortunately there was no female instructor this time,, as she fell sick. The male teacher was very nice , invited me to an initial interview and said I can meditate in a relaxed way . I answered I also wanted to take the course seriously and he answered I should listen to my body and just do what feels right. Only the three hour group sittings were mandatory. I was surprised to find out on the very first evening that there was no dinner even for pregnant women. In other courses I had always seen pregnant women get food and was astonished. There was another pregnant woman (7 months pregnant) on my room and she had a plate labelled with her name.i wondered if u only get food if you are beyond a certain week. I was not hungry and still like any old student was allowed sweetened apple juice with ginger and lemon juice. I piled up on the honey. I knew eating too much would hinder my meditation practice and make everything more difficult. On the fourth day however I was anxious if I was actually doing the right thing for my child . After all it was some kind of intervall fasting. I asked the female manager and she said I should just follow my instincts. But I find this so difficult. Of course there is discomfort in vipassana. After all you should observe the pain as it is. So where is the limit? What should I accept and where should I say :no, this does not seem healthy? So I asked the manager if she knew of any rules or studies being done on the impact of not eating that much. And she said she knew none and would ask the teacher. He said it is not harmful to not eat dinner but that I should not feel hungry. So I had a Banana or kiwi, some kind of fruit sometimes after that. I was also not told to not sit addithana, that means with a strong determination not to change your posture. Since I can't yet feel the baby , I have got no indication if she is still alive or how it has affected her. So I have to wait until the next ultrasound in a few days... To be fair, I think I might have felt her but since it is my first pregnancy I can't be sure. It bothers me now, after having read a few accounts of pregnant women doing a vipassana course, how different the approaches and rules seem to be depending on the county or center. I would have wished for a clearer guideline. The course however did help me a lot. I was very anxious before the course of I could actually do it, because I had felt so irritated before emotionally and physically. I had taken things out on my partner, even questioning my own ability to be a good mother and if this all was the right decision. On the course I had very few problems and it was so much easier than I expected. Having done the other courses I always thought it would be the best thing ever for a pregnant mother and baby to attend such a course and always was determined if I ever became pregnant to do this . As the time drew closer though I doubted myself and my abilities . So I am very glad I have done it, it was nothing like I expected . It made me believe more in my abilities and also helped me reset myself again.

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Yoga for pregnant women link
11/24/2022 03:01:48 am

Yoga and meditation is good during pregnancy, its gives relief and help to get rid from all stress and anxiety. Thanks for sharing this blog.

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